Transcript
The key character quality in a good and lasting marriage is humility, and the way that humility demonstrates itself is, "I'm approachable and I'm willing to admit my faults. I don't get defensive. I don't turn the tables. I don't unpack on you all your weaknesses. I know that I'm not perfect. I know that I'm still a sinner. I know that I'm going to have wrong thoughts, desires, attitudes. I'm going to say wrong things. I know I'm going to have a bad day because that's who I am. And so, I'm humbly approachable."
Willing to Forgive
It shows itself in a second way that I'm willing to forgive. "I love you and I understand the thing that I struggle with, you struggle with, too, because we are in the process of maturing. We're not there yet." You never, ever, ever, ever will be a grace graduate and you won't marry a grace graduate, so humility is so important.
The humility of admission and confession, and the humility of forgiveness. You just can't have a good marriage without that because what you do is you just build a greater and greater closetful of wrongs that you haven't let go of. And now, you view that person through the vehicle of all those wrongs. What a horrible way to start a day, rather than I start the day with settled accounts and I'm able to think of you as your best, not as your worst. That's the only way a marriage can ever work.
