Do you remember what it was like to be a teenager? The self-consciousness. The physical self-awareness. Trying to fit in. Doing whatever it took to gain peer acceptance. Attempting to act cool but looking like a fool. (I remember spilling soda on myself at McDonald’s in front of three girls, and I genuinely wanted to die right then and there!) Being a teen is scary, awkward, and volatile. Unsurprisingly, they will produce tumult and stress in the home that younger children... Read More

Last week I defined what genuine, other-focused, Christ-centered love was: Willing self-sacrifice for the good of another that does not require reciprocation or that the person being loved is deserving. Today, I want to give you 23 practical applications of that definition that you can implement in your marriage or other relationships. P.S. - this weekend, I’m live streaming a brand-new marriage conference. Session 4 is all about this kind of love. If you want to experience the... Read More

As we approach Valentine’s Day, everyone is talking about love. But if you listen, you’ll find that a lot of the conversation is centered around vague definitions or abstract concepts. Let’s get concrete and specific: Love is willing self-sacrifice for the good of another that does not require reciprocation or that the person being loved is deserving. What inspired my definition? Love is best defined by an event: Christ’s sacrifice of love is the ultimate... Read More

When you picture the little Lord Jesus laying down his sweet head in a manger in Bethlehem, do you see a warrior? Christmas is a violent war story. It has to be, because life on this side of eternity is spiritual warfare. Rebellion raises its ugly head then grace comes down darkness covers creation’s light then grace comes down thorns and disease infect then grace comes down people lie and cheat then grace comes down desires lead astray then grace comes down image-bearers... Read More

Human beings sing. We can’t stop singing. If you listen carefully, you will notice that we tend to sing about what has captured our hearts. What has captured your heart this Christmas? We have no better reason to sing than this: The Savior is born to live, die, and rise again to fix what sin has broken! God commands us to sing (see Ephesians 5:18–19 and Colossians 3:16), so I want to share excerpts from my six favorite Christmas hymns with you and your family. Read the... Read More

Someone asked me the other day which Scripture passage was the best to share with their family at Christmas. That’s like cornering me and demanding I publicly declare which of my four children I love most. It’s an impossible question, but the passage I return to most is Isaiah 9:6. “For to us a child is born, to us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulder, and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince... Read More

Tomorrow we celebrate Thanksgiving in America, a day where we communicate our gratitude in front of others. As much as I love the Thanksgiving festivities, we must admit that this response isn’t typical for us. The default language of the hearts of sinners is grumbling. This tension between complaint and gratitude tugs at your heart constantly. It’s a spiritual battle, and the result shapes fundamentally different responses of how you live. It’s a spiritual battle,... Read More

Perhaps it’s the most frequent moral contradiction in our lives. Maybe it’s the place where we all stumble the most. How is it possible that we who have been blessed with eternal forgiveness can be so regularly unforgiving to those around us? Here are a few reminders to help us close the gap between what we say we believe and how we treat others when it comes to forgiveness. 1. Forgiveness is a daily practice. The Lord’s Prayer commands us to pray, “Forgive... Read More

It’s inevitable. If you live and interact with other sinners, you will experience conflict. Conflict shouldn’t scare you or be avoided like the plague. In fact, conflict can be very good. It’s a significant way that God works in our lives, and the Bible is a book about God entering into conflict to save us. So why are we afraid of conflict? Because it tends to get very ugly, very quickly. Our typical response s to point the finger at our opponent: “I did that because you…” or “I wouldn’t... Read More